Make him go wild: Here are a few things to consider. Yet you might be surprised to know that the male body also has particular erogenous zones, or trigger spots, that—when stimulated—will make his orgasms more powerful and your sex life better than ever. Your best bet is to talk to your guy outside of the bedroom before you try to finger his anus so he doesn't get any unwanted surprises. It will keep blood flow in the area, increasing sensitivity and keeping them at attention. A change in thinking may improve your sex life. You might say that you heard stimulating his prostate can trigger a really intense orgasm, and see if he would be down to try it later on. All are potential pleasure points worth exploring. Before transition, when estrogen was the more dominant hormone coursing through my body, there were many other things that created a sense of well-being in my world—walking the dog, a night out with friends, succeeding at a task—and while sex was certainly one of these essentials, it wasn't anywhere near the first item on the feel-good list. Scrotal Raphe How to find it: Or, when he is lying on his stomach, try kissing a trail down his back, over his buttocks, and then gently nibbling along this fold and flicking it with your tongue before moving on to his inner thighs. Whereas men tend to use porn. By T Cooper Photo: Although I can't quite say I know what it's like to be a woman—because I suppose I've never really felt like one—I can say what it's like to have higher levels of female hormones and have sex as a woman, then also do the same as a male. Have a warm towel ready and then place his feet on a pillow on your lap. An excerpt of the ensuing conversation: According to logic, I know that makes no sense, but so it goes with the brain on testosterone.