Use It, Don't Lose It For many women, taking these few steps can have an amazing and immediate impact on their libido. But at this point, it would be great if I could get some of my sex drive back. I don't want to be a frigid wife some day, or a frigid girlfriend right now for that matter, but I'm not even sure what to do to make all of these concerns go away. The survey found that 85 percent of women ages 30 to 50 think low sexual desire hurts the level of intimacy in their romantic relationships. In addition, several therapies involving testosterone pills or skin patches specifically designed to treat female sexual problems are currently being studied in hopes of FDA approval in the near future. Sexual dysfunction usually affects both parties in a relationship and should be discussed together or individually with a mental health professional. Problems with sex are common and can often be worked out by educating yourself about the issue and researching professionals who are trained to help. Moreover, Sadock offers us this encouraging thought to keep in mind: If you're bothered by a low sex drive or decreased sex drive, there are lifestyle changes and sexual techniques that may put you in the mood more often. Of these, about six in 10 were distressed about their dulled cravings for sex. Continued Indeed, she says, most often it's not the catastrophic divorce-level problems that are standing in the way, but rather a compilation of small but very "fixable" issues that have just piled up over time. If an oral contraceptive is suspected as the culprit in lowering testosterone levels, a different formulation or nonhormonal birth control methods may be prescribed. The summer that I got on the Pill, we would be seeing each other constantly, but compared to summers past, there was far less sex. But sexual desire also encompasses interpersonal and psychological factors that create a willingness to be sexual. Print Overview Women's sexual desires naturally fluctuate over the years. And the first step is understanding the cause s behind your lack of sex drive. I've considered getting off of the Pill many times, but it is the method that fits my lifestyle and wallet the best.