My friend Miranda has accompanied me here for moral support. If they could, they would have one of us in their houses in a room, just kept there, for when needed. Many black women are aware of being seen through this stereotype-laden lens, in turn making them feel suspicious of the men who do approach them. And I think some black men have bought into the myth that they are hypersexual, that their sexual prowess and the size, the physicality, is greater. Sex is, in some ways, a very tangible expression of the deeper currents of prejudice in this country. Wayne has just come out of a playroom, and has barely bothered to put his clothes back on — his flies low, shirt open, and tie hung nonchalantly around his neck. I knew there would be older, suburban white couples. She decided it was an investment worth making to find a partner who, like her, works in the City and would share her ambition. When Europeans first came into contact with the African continent, they indulged in an imaginative riot of fantasy. But then sex and relationships are one of the last remaining bastions of unreconstructed racial prejudice. But the paucity of single black men with similar lifestyles led her to consider dating someone of a different race. When I ask if they feel fetishised because of their race, they vigorously deny it.