And yet it turns out, this isn't always the case: But," she added, "they were awful and narcissistic, with very little to give to their children. Surely, though, the demise of the Celtic Tiger has reined in women somewhat? Cheating Baby Boomers love to experiment sexually Sex has always been and will always be an integral part of a marriage. Twenty or thirty years ago they might have opted for divorce, because surely there was another man out there who could do better in this role, who could satisfy them completely. So none of the sentimentality that we seem to want to assign women. She said that she used to compare her marriage to her parents', who always seemed totally in love. I confided in a friend once that, after 15 years of marriage, the institution and the relationship itself continued to mystify me. But at the same time, they found married life incredibly dull and constraining and resented the fact that as women, they felt they consistently did a disproportionate amount of the invisible labor that went into maintaining their lifestyle. Sometimes I wonder if when the kids leave I should either a have a passionate affair or b find another husband. My mom got this phrase from her therapist: One woman in Walker's book told her, "The inequality of it all is such an annoying factor that I am usually in a bad mood when my spouse is in my presence," and another said that while her husband was a competent adult in the world, at home he felt like "another child to clean up after.