In other scenarios, partners make an intentional choice to abstain from sexual intimacy for religious or spiritual reasons. However, what these studies missed and what's causing some misconceptions about sexual frequency and joy , Leowenstein recently told The New York Times , was to determine which element — sex or happiness — was the cause and which was the effect. Intimate sex does not work if you are expecting your partner to read your mind. Moreover, the researchers stipulate that by being forced to have more sex, the selected couples actually developed, over time, less motivation to have sex. When things are great with you and your partner in bed, your confidence will increase in other areas. While you can still have a hot and fulfilling sex life when you're deep into a relationship, sometimes your job, kids, cat, or the new episode of "Game of Thrones" can get in the way. They actually reported feeling more unhappy as compared to a control group who proceeded to have sex as often as they usually did. All the married couples stressed that sex is very important in a committed relationship because it maintains a level of intimacy that both people need in order to succeed. Some couples experience ease with regularly engaging in fulfilling sexual activity. D psychotherapist and author of Not Just Friends a book about infidelity talks about the many ways in which partners unintentionally stray from their relationships and the costly emotional work required to fix sexual trust. The media is full of explicit images, pornography, movies, and messages that make us believe sex is an open topic; yet, many people do not feel comfortable approaching their sexuality or talking about sex openly with their friends or partners. Sex has many positive physical, intellectual, emotional and social benefits.