I'm not going to be able to tell you what your partner likes and prefers when it comes to oral sex, either: Like anything else, it works for some people and not for others. Try a bunch of different tactics: They're not needed for plenty of people for sex. We hope you know that we love you regardless. So, when you're with a new partner, in order to safeguard the health of both of you, you may have to have an "object" between the two of you sometimes: The same way anyone else does. So, what you're going to do with a partner is start by doing what feels good to you, on your mouth, tongue and lips, and then take some pauses to ask her if she's liking what you're doing. This is true for heterosexual, bisexual , lesbian and gay people. So, on a given day, Lesbian Couple A may want to engage in some mutual masturbation and some oral sex , while Lesbian Couple B may choose to engage in shared manual sex and genital massage mixed in with some role play, and Lesbian Couple C may decide to do some big-time snuggling paired with strap-on play. What is less sexy, though, is ceasing mouth-to-vulva contact because you have the equivalent of a charlie horse in your neck. I would like to know how to have sex with a girl and NOT use a vibrator. Some also rub their vulvas together. Some like to have parts of the vulva circled with the tongue, and most will have a few movements or specific areas of sensitivity that really make them go kooky, and then plenty of variations which they also enjoy mixed in. It is possible to transmit sexually transmitted diseases STDs through many of these practices, so it is important for people who have partners of the same sex to read up on safer sex. That said, intercourse usually isn't seen as "the" sex the way it can be in many male-female partnerships, given that a majority of women don't find intercourse all by itself that satisfying, but plenty of hetero couples have, by now, clued into the fact that intercourse shouldn't be the main thing on the menu, too.