Undoubtedly, he has provided Bible-based premarital and martial counseling to thousands of struggling couples. It sounds absurd, but if porn is going to be part of your life, you need to tell the other person that. One of the big assumptions I challenge is: If marriage is the end goal for love, sex, and dating—and presumably Stanley would agree that it is—then a helpful launching pad would be to examine the purpose and parameters of this covenant before moving forward. After all, the author is the Evangelical pastor of the largest church in America. Did people get up and leave? Love is natural in terms of a feeling, but not in terms of doing. There was not that much information about the addictive nature of porn. It was unanimous that they thought it was helpful and shared some of the stuff they learned. But why not be honest? Share 4 Shares As a pastor, it is disappointing that he avoids Genesis 2, which clearly lays out the purpose of marriage, namely, that it is a covenant relationship between one man, one woman, and God. The natural part of love is the feeling and chemistry part, but the doing part of love is unnatural. What do you mean by that phrase? While presenting I Corinthians How do these teachings look different now than if you had written them 20 years ago? So he seems to compromise his teachings by insinuating that Jesus would probably bake a cake for a same-sex wedding couple and therefore Christians should too. However, his ambiguity threaded throughout his book actually does more harm than good.